Four years, some days I think'is
that all?!? We have only been married four years? So much has happened in the past four years it feels like many more. We were only in a relationship for two years before we married so that is a grand total of six years of us being together. It is funny how six years ago I would have never in a million years imagined this to be my life. I would never have guessed that J and I would be married with two children and be building such a wonderful life together. It's not perfect by a long shot, I don't think any marriage is, but it is beautiful and wonderful for us.
As per tradition in our relationship, we got married non-traditionally. We were married on a beautiful Tuesday in November, outside at a waterfall. We really lucked out that it was a warmer day in November. I wore a red sweater dress. Those in attendance were Bug (almost 9 months), my mom, my step-dad, J's mom, J's grandmother, and his great uncle. It was a small informal ceremony and it was perfect. Afterwards, we went out to eat at a local eatery and for desert we had an ice cream cake. Then we went home and that was the beginning of our married life. We never went on a honeymoon.
Since then we have added another child to our family, lived in 3 different homes, driven 5 different vehicles, worked 11 different jobs, had 10 chickens, 4 dogs, 4 cats, and 2 bunnies.
Every day hasn't been easy, we have had our rough patches. On our 2nd anniversary, J found out he was being laid off from his job and it took 4 months before he was able to find a new one. We have had a lot more good times than bad though and through it all we have supported and rallied for each other. Marriage is work, no matter how much we love each other. Love begins a marriage but teamwork is what makes a marriage last.
Marriage also requires us to grow and evolve together. Even though J and I are 4 1/2 years apart in age and came from quite different backgrounds we have the same core values. We want the same things out of life. We value our family.